Last night I couldn't sleep, normally I would be worrying about petty little things. Maybe how people are treating me, maybe how life is going, maybe about everything that's gone wrong in my life etc... but not last night. I lay awake, thinking of all the great things that have happened in my life and how blessed I am to have it. I wanted to share my experience and how I overcame these sorrows, I know I wasn't the only one feeling this way...
Since doing Youtube/Blogging, I noticed how how people would comment on my life, how great it was, how perfect it seems but little did they know, it couldn't be more further than the truth. I too had to deal with negative people around me. Time after time, I would break down into tears and question myself until one day I snapped out of it. I stopped listening to the negativity and smiled because I have a great life right now, it was a shame it took me so long to realise how unhappy I was becoming, because of other people's problems, I realised that I wasn't the problem, THEY are the problem.
Who is spreading the negativity?
Identify who is giving you negativity. Do you understand why this person is being negative? Is it because they hate their job, feel frustrated, feel trapped in their life or do they lack in self esteem so the only way they can feel powerful is by hurting others? If you understand why they are being like that, then it's much more easier to deal with. If it's a so-called friend, confront them. Maybe they have insecurities themselves, they may be unaware that they are being so negative. If the negativity continues, move on and find new friends. They obviously have no concern over your feelings.
If it's someone closer i.e a family member, confront them also. This can be hard as no matter what, you are attached to this person. Negativity within a family normally stems from rivalry, deeper insecurities and overall self assessment. Sit down and talk about it, it's worth figuring it out but if it's still not working and all you end up doing is arguing? I deal with this far too much, just ignore it, there's nothing more you can do.
DEAL WITH IT!
Whenever the negativity starts, smile and remain silent. Negative people crave and feed on attention, don't get trapped in their bubble of negativity, don't let them drain your energy, don't let them bring you down. Say to yourself, "what a shame this person is so unhappy. Maybe some of my positive energy will rub off on them". Detach yourself from the situation, step outside the bubble and observe it. Some people have no idea how negative they have become.
Remember that the negative behaviour is a reflection of them. It tells you what kind of person they are and what issues they may be dealing with. It's not a reflection of who you are. Rise above it.
Its not your fault, focus on YOUR own positive energy
Its not your fault, don't believe a thing when they are trying to belittle you, trying hard to make you feel worthless. Sit up straight, take a deep breath and snap out of it. Be enthusiastic about what's happening in your life right now. I was often called 'fake' because when things were getting me down, I often smiled and brushed it off, concentrating on the positive stuff so obviously the negative person didn't understand why I was being so positive and happy when there were these problems floating around. Of course, negative people won't want to see you happy hence trying to bring you down again by judging. Do not question yourself nor take in what negative things have been said, remember, you're great, you're doing no harm and most of all, you're just trying to lead a happy life. You're own happiness is in your hands, enjoy it!
If all else fails, reduce contact with them or avoid them altogether. It’s not healthy to spend too much time with people who drain you. Your time is precious, so spend it with people who have positive effects on you. There is so much to do, so much to see and so much to experience in your life. So brush off the negative comments and live your life the way you want to.
Smile Today, Smile Tomorrow, Smile Forever
Be certain of who you are, what you believe in and what you want out of life and most importantly don't let the negative comments ruin your day, remember, THEY are having a shit day, not you. It's going to be hard not to snap back at them but remain calm and keep a clear head. It took me years to figure this out, I am glad I finally did. Life has never been happier.